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Lie like a liar - does everyone do it?

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One thing I have come across regularly in this online dating adventure, is that a lot of men think it's ok to lie. I feel that there is no need to lie with anyone off the sites as I'm genuinely looking for someone to spend time with, so they're going to have to like me for who I am... not the person I pretend to be to get their attention. So when I met up for dinner with the first liar I came across, which was only the second person I went on a date with, I was left feeling very disappointment and a little bit cheated.  Unfortunately I can't remember his name, which I know is very bad, so let's call him X the Accountant. Clearly he left a lasting impression of me and almost turned me off the whole dating thing. X had been full of good banter, sounded sweet and just kind of normal, so we arranged a day and time to meet up for dinner.  At first I thought it was weird to meet for dinner so quickly and that a drink would've been better, but hey he had said he was de

Taking the property leap

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As I previously mentioned, the FIFO life enabled me to start setting myself up, however the start of my property interest actually started before that. It all started when my Nanna moved into a nursing home and was forced to sell her home to pay for that move, which if you don't know how the age cared facilities work in Australia... It's not very nice and is very expensive. My eldest sister and I couldn't stand to see her home be sold to strangers, so we joined forces (well incomes) and purchased her house when I was only 19. This decision was completely made on emotion for me and then only later did we realise that we have made our first investment for our future.  This investment included tax deductions, which came in handy when we worked away, until it started earning too much money, and now is a solid base for our superannuations.  That house is a tiny 3 bedroom, 1 bathroom fibro house in the country that we bought very cheap, luckily. We've since had our parents do

Dating 101... The rules

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This post is pulled over from one of my other blogs but think its important to recap for everyone. There are definitely rules to this dating thing.  Some are big and can't be broken, others can be a little bent, and some are just little things that make me run from men. The safety rules -  these are just commonsense but very important and should almost never be broken.  1. Never tell them your full name unless you plan to spend serious time with. 2. Never tell them where you live... ok I've straight out broken this ooops. 3. Meet in a public place and always tell someone where you're going and tell them when the date is over. 4. Don't get into a car with a strange guy... yep broken this one too, but was sensible enough to tell a friend including car type and maybe even a pic of the guy - well no one wants to hang out with the Claremont killer. The  conversation  rules  - these apply when talking to a guy online and in person, if these get bent or broken then expect bad

Where are all the 'good' men?

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Once I had adjusted back to the real world I realised that I was one of the very few single one left out of my group of friends. So I turned to online dating after a very dear friend convinced me that I needed more to my life than just work, needed to start putting myself out there if I didn't want to end up alone, and really it was a way to meet men, whom I would not normally meet. I've been on almost all the dating apps/websites (below) since January last year, which has definitely been fun. - RSVP - Oasis - Tinder - Blendr - Skout  Ok so the last two are hook up apps, but hey there were times I needed to know I was desirable when the top two weren't yielding good prospects or I wanted a bit more attention. I know that sounds very shallow but it can become addictive to have so much attention from men, to have the rush of a first date and to have options after years of only having slim pickings.  I can put my hand on my heart and admit I had become addicted to it, to the p

Realising the disconnect

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In the almost 5 years I worked FIFO, I experienced the normal ups and downs that people go through when they are in their early 20s, just in a different environment and with anywhere between 80-300 other people apart of it.  I started working away when I was 20 and can honestly say it was the best decision I could make at that time.  It enabled me to buy 2 houses with one of my sisters, one we call our superannuation, given the amount the value has increased over the years and the other we are still trying to burn off the debt we were left with when we sold it. But really how many people who don't work FIFO can say they were able to buy 2 houses by 21?! I am grateful I've done this as it made me confident enough to take the leap to build on my own in the last couple of years and hope that by having some property under my belt I'll have a comfortable future. However, in the first 18 months of it, I was unlucky enough to experience Cyclone George, lucky enough to not be on si